Break The Cycle – Dr Mariel Buque

You internalized these relationship qualities as your own. This is an example of an intergenerational inner child transmission, which is a childhood emotional wound modeled by your parents and inherited by you. In addition to modeling, family members can also impose direct harm on you that also contributes to your intergenerational inner child transmission.

For example, some families physically abuse their children for generations. Let’s say that your great-grandparents learned that the way to keep their child, your grandmother, in line was by physically punishing her. That strategy created an inner child wound in her, but it also created a model for how she would then punish her own child (your father).

That’s how the cycle continued. Physical punishment is an example of what a caregiver does to their child that keeps the cycle going. Another way an inner child transmission is perpetuated is through what caregivers didn’t do, like offer emotional support. For example, if as a child, your father didn’t receive emotional validation from his parents, then he won’t intuitively know to check in on your emotions either.

He never learned that children’s emotions need validation. So that emotional neglect that you’ve felt so deeply was also prominent in him. This offers no excuse for a child’s needs to be neglected, but it offers us an intergenerational lens by which to see how emotional neglect cycles continue. Both what was done to you (like physical punishment) and what was not given to you (like lack of emotional validation) could be the result of an inner child wound being passed down your family line.

Perhaps there’s a version of how inner child wounds have been recycled in your family that’s more specific to you. This could be a key opportunity to step back and reflect on what those intergenerational inner child transmissions have looked like and ask yourself the questions: (1) What was modeled to me? (2) What was done to me? and (3) What have I never received?

You will begin to find common threads when you start asking the same questions about your caregivers’ childhoods and their caregivers’ childhoods.

Mariel Buqué, Ph.D, is a Columbia University–trained, trauma-informed psychologist, professor, and sound bath meditation healer. She received her doctorate in counseling psychology from Columbia University, where she also trained as a fellow in holistic mental health. Her clinical framework infuses ancient and Indigenous healing practices into a modern, comprehensive therapeutic approach. She has utilized her training in holistic care to integrate holistic practices, like sound bath meditation and breathwork, into therapy, which has helped to deepen trauma healing for an entire generation of clients. In addition, she provides healing workshops to Fortune 100 companies, including Google, Capital One, and Meta, and lectures within the psychology department at Columbia University.

Dr Buqué is widely sought out for her clinical expertise and trauma approach and has been featured on major media outlets, including Today, Good Morning America, and ABC News. She has been named as a School of Greatness’s 100 Greatest People Doing Good and an inaugural Verywell Mind 25 Mental Health Champion. She is originally from the Dominican Republic and currently lives in New Jersey.

Her work can be found at drmarielbuque.com and @Dr.MarielBuque. 1kitap1.com/en Dr Mariel Buqué BREAK THE CYCLE A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma 1kitap1.com/en Contents Sensitivity Acknowledgment A Note about Professional Emotional Help INTRODUCTION PART 1: What You Inherited CHAPTER 1 You Are a Cycle Breaker CHAPTER 2 Your Intergenerational Higher Self CHAPTER 3 Your Body Remembers Your Trauma CHAPTER 4 Unhealed Trauma and You CHAPTER 5 A Genetic Inheritance PART 2: There Are Layers to This CHAPTER 6 Your Intergenerational Nervous System CHAPTER 7 Your Intergenerational Inner Child CHAPTER 8 Intergenerational Cycles of Abuse CHAPTER 9 When Collective Trauma Enters Your Home PART 3: Alchemizing Your Legacy CHAPTER 10 Grieving Your Traumatic Lineage CHAPTER 11 Embodying Generational Resilience CHAPTER 12 Leaving a Generational Legacy EPILOGUE Acknowledgments APPENDIX A: Mamá Tutúna’s Lemongrass Healing Tea APPENDIX B: Intergenerational Trauma Healing Grounding Techniques APPENDIX C: Holistic Healing Practices APPENDIX D: Sound Bath Meditations Bibliography Index 1kitap1.com/en For my sister, Lady.

Thank you for modeling for me how to break cycles with love at the center. May we continue to live out our intergenerational legacy. I love you más. 1kitap1.com/en Sensitivity Acknowledgment In the pages of this book, I have done my very best to offer as much inclusion to diverse experiences as is within my realm of knowledge.

I aimed to be as responsive and actionable in my language and approach as I am able. Any text will have limitations, but I hope that you will feel seen and validated through reading this book.

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