Connecting Healing For Ourselves And Our Relationships – Larry Crabb

What I allowed myself to hear went more along these lines: “Dear Lord, it’s such a burden for this Christian leader to worry so much about his son. If I could be effective with this young man then perhaps his dad’s ministry could make even more of a difference for your kingdom. Please help me do a good job.” , Even though I wrapped my fleshly urges in spiritual dress, I sensed that my prayer was not getting through. I wasn’t convinced God was commit- | ted to my noble agenda.

So I took inventory of my resources: * I did well in graduate school. * Several therapy supervisors predicted great things for me. * Local word was already spreading that I was a pretty decent therapist. Yes! I can do it. I think. I hope so. God, please! Help a little. Paul spoke of struggling for others in the energy of Christ (Col. 1:19, 2:1). He longed to see others become more like Christ (Gal. 4:19). The apostle John jumped up and down with delight when the people he loved remained faithful to God (3 John 4).

Their agenda was to build God’s kingdom. Mine was to build my city. I struggled for myself more than for my client, wringing my hands over whether good things would happen. Was I adequate to make them happen? That question burdened me more than whether the work of God’s Spirit was being furthered in this young man’s life.

; The urge to help, though disguised as a good one, should have been killed. But I honored it. The man was helped. His dad was impressed; my reputation grew. The foundations of my city were firmly laid. Praise God! Or me! Whomever. I don’t really care. My life was working. What else matters? City builders don’t connect. They require others to affirm their ade- quacy. And when someone does affirm them, a bond develops.

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Kep’s Story 1 2. Three Ingredients of Healing Community 17 3. Restored through Reconnecting 23 4. Designed to Connect 31 5. Connecting: The Center of Life 4l 6. Connection and Vision 51 7. Vision in the Highest 57 8. What’s Good about Us? 67 9. The Enemy Within 85 10. Dying Together to Live Together 95 11. Urges to Be Killed 103 12.

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