Dopamine Kids – Michaeleen Doucleff

For example, one nine-year-old wanted to ride the bus to school in Brooklyn alone. Another wanted to play chess in the park with strangers. One middle schooler told his mom, “I don’t want you to come to school anymore to walk me home.” “That statement really shocked this mom,” Ortiz said, “because this kid was really anxious when we began.” Ortiz calls these desires Independent Activities, or IAs. He helps families add several of these IAs into a child’s life, by having a child accomplish one task every day for five weeks.

(But you can start much slower and do one or two per week.) If a child can’t think of any activities, Ortiz has a whole list of ideas. Parents have veto power on the activity. For example, one child wanted to take Amtrak through multiple states. “His mom said, ‘That’s absolutely not happening,’ ” Ortiz said with a chuckle. “But we figured out other activities.” After a few weeks, children begin to flourish, Ortiz has found. Because they learn to love “scary—but fun.” As they learn to take on risks, their sense of security and confidence grows.

Children tell Ortiz that they come to realize, Hey, I’m more capable than I thought I was. The world is safer than I thought. And I can handle it when things don’t go as planned. “These thoughts are antidotes to future anxiety,” Ortiz explained. “Anxiety is thinking, ‘I’m not flexible enough or creative enough to handle it when things don’t turn out how I expect.’ And we’re just destroying that idea by replacing it with real experiences,” he added. Your Turn Pull out your dream chart for your family.

Can you think of any specific activities for the right-hand column that will add adventure to your children’s lives? Is there anything they’ve been yearning to do alone that’s a bit scary or risky? For example: Ask your child if they’re interested in learning to travel alone somewhere.

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You will continue to receive exclusive offers in your inbox. OceanofPDF.com OceanofPDF.com In memory of my mom, who helped me feel the difference between wanting and pleasure OceanofPDF.com Prologue Six years ago, I began to notice something sad: I no longer enjoyed activities that once brought me a sense of calm and peaceful joy. I can’t remember exactly when this shift occurred.

It slowly crept up on me, over the course of months, perhaps a few years. But I remember when I first noticed it. I had taken my four-year-old daughter to a beautiful beach on a Saturday afternoon. Perched at the western tip of the San Francisco Bay, this beach offers magnificent views of the Pacific Ocean’s cragged coastline.

Green grass-covered cliffs plunge a hundred feet into the ocean. Foamy white waves crash along black- and-gray sand. And if you’re lucky, you can see gray seals bobbing their shiny, round heads up and down out of the water, as they fish along the surf.

That beach is nothing but magical. And that Saturday afternoon, my daughter, Rosy, had that magic running through her. She hummed along, with a lovely contentment, as she tried to build a crumbly sandcastle with a tiny moat near it. The moment felt sweet, calm, and ideal. But inside, I felt the opposite. I felt irritable and even glum. I couldn’t stop thinking about my work—my email, my texts, my social media accounts. I drew my phone from my pocket, checking each app, one after another. Then a few minutes later, I’d pull out my phone and launch the same circuit over again.

I tried so hard to enjoy “the moment,” as my mom always advised. I smiled at Rosy.

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