Infidelity And Other Affairs – Kate Legge

If Bessie and Herbert began their acquaintance tentatively, their letters soon throbbed with more than just details of the muggy weather and news of comings and goings. Before very long, the tone of delicate restraint sizzles with desire. Bessie quotes her sister’s compliment that if her fiancé could see her in her new frock, he’d hug her even if they had an audience.

‘But I know him better. I know he wouldn’t [not in front of ‘an audience’] whatever he might do when we had a room to ourselves.’ On learning he’s been appointed to Maldon parish, she writes: ‘Dearest, how I’d love to be with you tonight – to talk about Maldon – or not to talk at all. Either would be lovely.’ They wrote every morning, noon and night because that’s what lovers do.

The only difference between then and now is the paper and pen and the post. Over the page, she conveys the doctor’s fear her poor health might prevent motherhood. ‘Oh my dear, my dear, it is not the discomfort or the pain I dread but it seems to put awry the hope we have in our hearts.’

Hope triumphed. She delivered him three sons in swift succession. Her sweet description of my father’s burbling in his cot while he drifted off to sleep captured him concisely, for that contentment rarely left him. His one memory of her is dutifully recorded in autobiographical jottings Dad began for ‘the instruction and amusement of family’. Only two years old when his mother died, my father remembered being lifted up to see her lying against the pillow, dark curls framing her pale face. Towards the end of his life, he wondered whether losing her so young hindered his ability to be demonstrative in expressing affection.

The impact of Bessie’s death on each of her three sons is telescoped in decades far beyond this point, when the repercussions of losing her love can be seen in emotional slumps that crimped their appetite for life. My mother also died prematurely. A parent’s early death stops the clocks and silences the pianos. American author Anna Quindlen captured how it defines us.

‘I’ve got brown hair and my mother died when I was 17,’ she wrote of how she would describe her adult self to a stranger. Children should not bury their mothers or fathers – who, in turn, should not be robbed of their young, for this reverses the natural order of life. I’ve always treasured the letters my mother wrote to me but I’ve longed for more of her, without knowing where to look. Dad kept Mum’s side of the family in a shoe box. Here’s where I found a telegram from the British Ministry of Defence, informing my maternal grandmother that her pilot son had failed to return his Lancaster aircraft from an enemy attack at Vierzon in France.

As a journalist, Kate Legge often seeks answers to how people reckon with bad luck or bad decisions. When faced with her husband’s affair, she discovered a fault line of betrayal running through four generations of his family, which began a search for answers both close to home and more universally. Infidelity and Other Affairs begins with this puzzle: is unfaithfulness a predisposition or a learned behaviour? From there, Legge contemplates a vast catalogue of behaviours as she strives to understand how we become who we are.

To her own surprise, she finds strength and peace over revenge and hate, as well as joy in unexpected places. Kate Legge is an award-winning journalist and author who has chronicled social and political affairs since the 1980s. Her novel, The Unexpected Elements of Love, was longlisted for the Miles Franklin award. Her non- fiction book, Kindred: A Cradle Mountain Love Story, was a finalist in the Queensland Literary Awards.

OceanofPDF.com Praise for Infidelity and Other Affairs … ‘Utterly compelling, deeply complex, achingly beautiful, heartbreakingly clear-headed, frequently saddening but more frequently wondrous, and always honest as f—k. Not unlike marriage when it works. One of Australia’s finest writers unflinchingly investigating and illuminating the value of monogamy and the true cost of betrayal. But all of life is here, too, and all of love.’

—Trent Dalton ‘It’s very hard to find an Australian writer who can portray others more virtuosically than Kate Legge. But now, when she turns her pen to the infidelity within her own marriage, she achieves something truly extraordinary; a pellucid study that is at once shocking and generous. It’s so gripping that I crashed into a bin while reading it as I walked home from the train.

I’m certain some will pick up this book out of curiosity and prurience. But having done so, they cannot fail to be entranced by Legge’s bone-deep strength and wisdom, and her quiet instruction on building a whole life out of things that are broken.’ —Annabel Crabb OceanofPDF.com OceanofPDF.com For Molly OceanofPDF.com Contents Infidelity Hereditary Disorder 1. Broken Hill, 1939 2. Beaumaris, 1978 3. Malvern East, 2007 4. Williamstown, 2016 Birthmarks 5. Something of Our Own 6. Mother Who? 7.

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