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First, He says that her desire will be \u201cto thy husband.\u201d Secondly, He says that the husband will rule over her. We know that this is a desire to usurp the husband\u2019s authority for two reasons. The first is because of the context of the immediate past\u2014this sin is what had brought about the Fall. Eve was beguiled and corrupted by the serpent, and took on herself a position that was not hers to assume.<\/p>\n

She was the one who took the initiative in the sin: \u201cBut I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being de- ceived was in the transgression\u201d (1 Tim.<\/p>\n

2:12\u201314). The second reason is the odd juxtaposition of the words desire and rule. This construction happens only one other time in the Bible, and it is found in the next chapter. In that place, God is warning Cain about the struggle he is about to go through: \u201cIf thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his de- sire, and thou shalt rule over him\u201d (Gen. 4:7, emphasis added). Here the juxtaposition of desire and rule is a picture of a power struggle.<\/p>\n

Sin has a desire for Cain, but Cain must fight back and rule over it. In the event, Cain did not do this\u2014sin had its way with him, sin fulfilled its de- sire. Cain did not rule over his sin the way he ought to have. But husbands will rule over their wives.<\/p>\n

The woman wants to usurp the authority of the man, and he reacts, sometimes unkindly, and rules over her. It is a fallen world, and this is a distortion of what authority and sub- mission would have looked like in an unfallen world. Nevertheless, this is how it is now, and it is this way because God has ordained it this way: \u201cFor the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man\u201d (1 Cor.<\/p>\n

11:8\u20139).<\/p>\n

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ONE Life in Girl World TWO Evolution and Sexual Selfishness THREE Not the Same Thing At All FOUR Calvinism and Girls FIVE Nice Guys and Jerks SIX A Matter of Rank SEVEN The Natural Use of the Woman EIGHT Lack of Communication is Key NINE The Value of Gender Stereotypes TEN What Women Want and What They Say They Want ELEVEN The Zone of Vulnerability TWELVE The Golden Rule, with Adjustments THIRTEEN Testosterone Does Stuff FOURTEEN Apologies That Lie FIFTEEN Don\u2019t Make Your Wife a Lesbian OceanofPDF.com DEDICATION To all my real nephews\u2014 Davis, Dane, Graham, Gunn, Masis, Scott, and Luke\u2014 who all got married without this book being in print yet.<\/p>\n

OceanofPDF.com FOREWORD Life between the sexes has always been good for generating pastoral chal- lenges, but we live in a generation that has figured out how to multiply, compound, and complicate such challenges. A number of New Testament epistles devote some significant column inches to instructing husbands and wives on how to get along. Because of the differences between men and women, and because of the disposition to selfishness that was introduced to all of us by the Fall, you would think that this would be enough to keep us busy.<\/p>\n

And so it was, but then we introduced a host of other complications\u2014in- cluding, but not limited to, an inability to define man or woman, the wide- spread availability of contraception, the widespread availability of pornog- raphy, the entrance of women en masse into the work force, the cultural shifts that resulted when the average age for marriage was delayed by many years, the widespread acceptance of feminist assumptions, and so on. Although Christians are not enthusiastic participants in many of these shifts, they are nonetheless still affected by them.<\/p>\n

In the old days, back before all this, the standards were at least clear. The difficulty was that because of our sinful fallenness, we had trouble meeting the standards that both we and our surrounding culture acknowledged. But because of our theological laziness and indolence, we have now al- lowed the rot of sin to get into the standards themselves. It used to be that everyone recognized that it was a rotten move to impregnate a woman and then leave her.<\/p>\n

But now? She should have been on the pill. What do you ex- pect? A generous move would be for the father to offer to pay for half the cost of the abortion. And so on. Christians are dismayed by this kind of thing, particularly when it gets to issues like abortion or same sex immorality. But even though Christians are dismayed by it, as stated earlier, they are still affected by these shifts.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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