{"id":263155,"date":"2026-07-14T14:23:53","date_gmt":"2026-07-14T11:23:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/1kitap1.com\/en\/how-not-to-fck-up-your-marriage-james-sexton\/"},"modified":"2026-07-14T14:23:53","modified_gmt":"2026-07-14T11:23:53","slug":"how-not-to-fck-up-your-marriage-james-sexton","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/1kitap1.com\/en\/how-not-to-fck-up-your-marriage-james-sexton\/","title":{"rendered":"How Not To Fck Up Your Marriage – James Sexton"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Okay, on this platform, let\u2019s include every person each user has ever slept with, or once fantasized about sleeping with. 2. Let\u2019s give you, the user, the ability to communicate with each and every one of them, both publicly and privately. 3. There will be other people on the service, too, people you know (family, friends, close coworkers), sort-of strangers (not-so-close coworkers or people you met briefly at a party but might find interesting to learn more about), and total strangers, so that when you do communicate with people you once had or have long maintained a sexual interest in, you have plausible deniability.<\/p>\n

(\u201cWhy did I \u2018like\u2019 the picture of her in a bikini? Fifty other people liked that picture! And I was mostly \u2018liking\u2019 the Hawaiian setting!\u201d) As a bonus, businesses will advertise on this service, so when your spouse asks why you\u2019re using it so much, you can say, \u201cI\u2019m reading reviews for pool cleaning services!\u201d You can say you\u2019re checking on your pension pot while actually checking out your prom date from twenty years ago and seeing how her boobs appear to be holding up.<\/p>\n

4. You have the ability to post photos of yourself, showing this other person (or persons) what you\u2019ve been up to \u2026 5. \u2026 but not in a candid, unfiltered way that captures your bad side, your blemishes, spinach between your teeth, etc. No, you\u2019ll get to curate which pictures you display, and of course you\u2019ll post only those in which you look good, where you\u2019re doing interesting things, and which show as much or little of your outside life (spouse, kids) as you wish to share.<\/p>\n

Want to show you\u2019re a family person? You can do that! Want to keep this intriguing person (or persons) from knowing for sure that you\u2019re married? You can do that! You\u2019re the curator. Obscuring the fact of a so-called, alleged spouse is easy-peasy. What\u2019s just outside the frame? Your real life! Yeah, no one has to see that. 6.<\/p>\n

You can flirt with this person (ex-girlfriend, ex-boyfriend, potentially- fun-to-sleep-with person) in so many ways\u2014micro-interactions known as \u201ccommenting on her status,\u201d \u201ccommenting on his photo,\u201d or simply \u201cliking\u201d his witty posts or posting items on your own page that comport with his or her interests and\/or political perspective, etc. Again, there\u2019s plausible deniability up the wazoo because it\u2019s not just a bald-faced one-on-one encounter (we\u2019ll add that feature in a minute).<\/p>\n

It\u2019s as if you\u2019re in a crowded bar, and you have absolute freedom to stare at this person, or whisper something to him, or compliment her\u2014 and it\u2019s totally cool because there are other people in the bar. What could possibly go wrong? 7.<\/p>\n

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Photo by Rory Lewis JAMES J. SEXTON is a divorce lawyer. He lives in New York City. He wakes up every day at four a.m. OceanofPDF.com \u201cNobody knows the dark side of marriage like a divorce lawyer, and James Sexton is a good one. In this engaging, wry, and illuminating book, Sexton shares his legal war stories and dispenses some no-nonsense relationship advice for anybody thinking about getting married or hoping to stay that way.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s an entertaining dose of tough love from a man who knows what he\u2019s talking about.\u201d \u2014Tom Perrotta, author of Little Children and Mrs. Fletcher \u201cDivorce is common, obviously, but how many people make the logical projection that seeds of thousands of future divorces are being planted and nurtured right now? How many couples recognize themselves as the misery farmers? While there\u2019s still time to stop themselves?<\/p>\n

James J. Sexton has a useful vantage point, blunt advice, and enough grisly stories to make self- help entertaining\u2014unless, I suppose, the marriage he\u2019s describing is yours.\u201d \u2014Carolyn Hax, nationally syndicated advice columnist for The Washington Post \u201cHere are three things I did while I read this book: laughed, cringed, and scribbled a whole slew of notes in the margins \u2026. James Sexton delivers frank, no-holds-barred advice, gleaned from the front lines of divorce. The real trick, though, is how he does it with so much love \u2026.<\/p>\n

This is a book teeming with hope.\u201d \u2014Grant Ginder, author of The People We Hate at the Wedding \u201cWryly written with plenty of candid wit and straightforward opinions \u2026 Sexton\u2019s enthusiasm and affinity for marriage stories is evident throughout as he examines issues such as honesty, sex negotiations, infidelity, long- term relationship \u2018slippage,\u2019 and that stinging realization that \u2018what\u2019s fun when you\u2019re dating is a pain in the ass when you\u2019re married\u2019 \u2026<\/p>\n

sage counsel to help readers better navigate the trajectories of their own relationships.\u201d \u2014Kirkus Reviews \u201cJames J. Sexton\u2019s book is a delightful surprise. Sexton is not offering the usual how-to-have-a-happy-marriage book, but rather a how-not-to-divorce book \u2026. Sexton doesn\u2019t judge.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

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