Everyone Is A Freak – Marissa LaRocca (1)

It’s especially hard when we go to the country she’s from, Georgia, since homosexuality and anything considered “abnormal” is simply not tolerated there. People would not only throw rocks and bottles at us, but some would go even further. Aside from being discriminated against for being with a woman, I’ve been used and abused just for being a woman.

I have been drugged multiple times and have gotten pregnant twice. I am 20 years old and I’ve already had two abortions. OceanofPDF.com Age: 29 Sex Assigned at Birth: Male Gender Identity: Cisgender Male Sexual Orientation: Bisexual with a preference for women Location: Tallahassee, Florida Sex in general seems taboo to talk about.

People will think you are weird or disturbed if you bring it up. While there is a strong feminist movement for women to talk about sex openly, men who talk about sex or their desires openly may be perceived as predatory or mentally ill. OceanofPDF.com Age: 18 Sex Assigned at Birth: Female Gender Identity: Transgender Male Sexual Orientation: Attracted to men and women Location: Watkinsville, Georgia I constantly get purposefully misgendered. I’ve been called countless slurs by random strangers and by people I’ve known for years.

I’ve been called “thing,” “it,” “snowflake,” “queer,” “fag,” “attention whore,” etc. I’ve had my I.D. denied because people didn’t believe I was male. OceanofPDF.com Age: 22 Sex Assigned at Birth: Female Gender Identity: Cisgender Female Sexual Orientation: I’m just attracted to someone’s soul Location: St. Joseph, Michigan I was the first girl in my high school who was open about dating other girls (and who also dated guys) and some people thought it was weird and teased me, but not in a bad way, really.

Or maybe I just never took it in a bad way because I just didn’t care what they thought. Then I’d get questions from other people from my school about how I was so comfortable with it being in the open and they’d ask if I could help them. So I loved how I was able to kind of be a private helpline for people who admired me for coming forward. OceanofPDF.com Age: 27 Sex Assigned at Birth: Female Gender Identity: Genderqueer or Gender Non-Conforming Sexual Orientation: Attracted to men and women Location: Plant City, Florida Anytime I’m out in public with my partner (who I consciously don’t call my husband in most scenarios because of this very occurrence), he is almost always spoken to first, given a hand to shake first, talked directly to when a matter of money is being discussed, and generally treated as the “lead” of our unit.

As human beings, there is one thing we all have in common— we want to be loved, seen, and accepted for who we are. Nobody wants to feel shame for things they desire to experience or explore. Nobody wants to feel like they are abnormal, crazy, repugnant, or unworthy of being loved. Within society, we want to feel safe and included. Within personal relationships, especially intimate ones, we want to feel acknowledged and received.

I think the majority of the pain and suffering we experience in this life is a result of our unwillingness to be vulnerable. There’s a great deal of risk involved in saying, “I want, I need…,” as we risk being judged and rejected each time we get up the courage to expose the fragility of our humanity. But this seems ironic since no one on this planet was born 100% autonomous and self-sufficient— we all need other people to survive.

I mean, sure, you might encounter the occasional monk who spends five years alone in a cave. But in a general sense, we all have needs that extend beyond food, shelter, and water. We need connection. We need other people to validate us, to touch us, and to instill our lives with purpose and meaning.

Now, there is one area that tends to make people feel more vulnerable than any other. Did you guess it? That’s right. It’s sex. Why do we consider sex to be so sacred and also taboo? Why do we give sex so much power, building it up to be the Holy Grail of intimacy? Well, I think we can probably agree on some of the fundamental reasons why sex can feel so vulnerable. For one, sex is a biological force. Hormones drive us to indulge in sex as a pleasurable act and so the urge to engage in it can feel beyond our control.

Then, sex usually involves some level of being naked and exposing your physical body to another human being. This can be daunting, especially if you experience any degree of dysphoria or discomfort in your body. And finally, sex can be an opportunity to unveil and play out some of our most intimate fantasies and desires, transporting us to states of being that can feel euphoric and ethereal. But sex is complicated.

Many of us receive conflicting messages about sex from the time we are young, creating an overall sex culture that is disorienting and confusing. As we approach adolescence, teachers and guardians warn us against the dangers of sex, emphasizing STDs, teenage pregnancy, etc. For many, religion plays a role as well, portraying sex as a sacred act to be tamed by all kinds of rules and restrictions.

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