Helping Your Kids Cope With Divorce The Sandcastles Way – M Gary Neuman

Children often blame themselves for not being able to prevent (by behaving better) or stop the violence between their parents They may be very angry at the attacking parent and even angrier at the victim for not leaving the situation or protecting herself It’s important to note that domestic violence rs not always restricted to spouses A child in a family with domestic violence teen times more Ucefy to be a victim of neglect, physical abuse, or sexual abuse himself.

Studies find that between 53 percent and 70 percent of male batterers also abuse their children The chrid who knows ho father violently abused ha mother rs bound to view a range of issues dif- ferently from a child who has not. Understands*)!*, per- haps, he may be more kkefy to choose sides and less w«ng to participate m vnitaoon or refuse altogether (See Supervisee! • I do not understand why my dad used to abuse my mom These children need heap *\ understanding whet do- mestic violence rs.

that they <*d not cause « and could not have stopped it and that rt <% okay to feet sad and to grieve for knses resulting from the violence hi also enportant for these children to ksern akernecrve. nonviolent ap- proaches to reaohnng contact and ways to preserve their own safety ff tNs « something you feet you cannot do ef- fectively, seek specleftted coumefcng or help from com- munity organizations or support groups dedketed to jrfeeea o» domestic violence B* Vf*»rm<1 T> »•.«.«• ronr ‘rnM« y^\nnt^% tpor -, and honestly Be clear ei stating that phytxal or tnwcnal •bus* m unacceptable, diet no one ever has an eacuee to treat someone «<-.- th*t wwf TSn .< , • , * .

ever, you want to give \our child all the love, support, md guidance he or she needs, but everything seems hardei and more complicated Helping )our Kids (.’ope with DrvOTOf the Simdccistlcs Wcvv can help. It is designed to help you view divorce through your child’s eyes, giving you age- specific, practical, in-depth information to help you guide him or her eniotionalh and ptychotOgicall) through this life-transforming experience.

This book is based on the national]) renowned Sand- castles workshop, which marriage counselor and child development expert Can Neuman created to help kids cope with this difficult time Gar) has helped over thirty thousand children through the SandcastJes program, which is now mandated bj rami}) courts nationwide Here he draws on this wealth of experience to help sou help \011r child cope with this monumental change. Subjects in< lude: • I low to build a co-parenting relationship — e\en when you think you can't • What to do when a parent moves twa) • How to stop fighting with your ex-spouse • Navigating the emotional turmoil of custoch and visitation • I lelping your child deal with change • Coping with kids' common tears about separation • Introducing significant others • Helping your child cope with 1 new itepfamif) I his warm, cinpathctic guide is tilled with specific - tions tor helping the whole tannh cope ^-appropriate scripts tor toddlers, preschoolers, six- to eight-year-olds, nine- to twehe-\ear-olds.

and thirteen- to sc\enteeii-\e.ir- olds. will give you cxacth the right words in order to sa\ |iist enough but not too much when explaining divorce to \our child Nearh a hundred pieces of artwork from children of all ages who have gone through the SandcastJes program will help you appreciate how kids perceive divorce and otter insights to help you recogni/e s\rnlx>ls in your own child’s work. Dozens of special activities, from drawing and playing with action figures to compiling photo albums and even baking cookies, will help you get closer to your child while inviting him or her to communicate problems that are diffi- cult to express 111 words ( ienerous quotatv Sandcastles children offer a kids’-e\e view of wh.

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