Holy Hurt – Hillary L Mcbride

OceanofPDF.com Alison Cook and William Matthews on Learning to See Patterns That Perpetuate Spiritual Abuse It is time to meet Alison Cook. I discovered Alison’s work when someone forwarded me a very interesting post she made on social media that seemed to effortlessly cut through avoidant spiritual bypassing without erasing the value of spirituality.

Since then we have gotten to know each other a little, and I’ve come to respect her work as a therapist and author deeply. She is the author of three books, including The Best of You and I Shouldn’t Feel This Way, and is a certified Level-2 Internal Family Systems therapist.

Her academic work specializes in integrating psychology and spirituality. Her doctoral dissertation is titled “The Role of Reflective Judgment in the Relationship between Religious Orientation and Prejudice.”1 In short, it looks at the role of religious orientation and its impact on prejudice. Yes, I downloaded it. Yes, I read all 193 pages. Yes, it was a Friday night when all of this went down. No, I do not regret my time spent reading her work—it was a highlight of my fall.

Alison All trauma is probably spiritual trauma on some level. I tend to think about it in really pragmatic terms, along the lines of knowing all trauma causes you to question your worth, to question yourself. Spiritual trauma adds this sort of terrorizing layer that God might question your worth too. That’s often subconscious.

But as I’ve worked with people over the years, there is this idea that I know in a sense God loves me or God cares about me, but I don’t know it. I don’t know it from my body, from my spirit, from my emotions, from my soul. There are two causes of this wounding that I see. There’s what we call more religious trauma, which I separate out a little bit in the connotation of maybe a religious institution.

You know, a pastor, someone who’s supposed to be the shepherd of a flock causing a trauma, and that’s more overt and no less awful. And sometimes it’s not overt. There’s another way that I have begun to understand spiritual trauma, which is informed by Ana-Maria Rizzuto’s book Birth of the Living God. She talks about how our parents, our first caregivers, are really our first glimpse of what God is like.

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ISBN 9781587436598 (paperback) | ISBN 9781587436604 (casebound) | ISBN 9781493449583 (ebook) Collage and cover design by Courtney Search Some names or details of the people and situations described in this book have been changed or presented in composite form in order to ensure the privacy of those with whom the author has worked. The author is represented by the Christopher Ferebee Agency, www.christopherferebee.com.

Baker Publishing Group publications use paper produced from sustainable forestry practices and postconsumer waste whenever possible. OceanofPDF.com To all our younger selves, who needed to know then but can finally learn now: you can listen to your body, you can trust yourself, and you are good at your core. OceanofPDF.com CONTENTS Introduction 1 1. The House Is Haunted 7 Mihee Kim-Kort and K.J. Ramsey on Defining Spiritual Trauma 33 2. Shards of Glass 39 J.S. Park on Fear-Based Spiritual Trauma 64 3. Pulling Back the Curtain 67 Preston Hill on the Systems and Process of Spiritual Trauma 87 4.

All in the Family 91 Alison Cook and William Matthews on Learning to See Patterns That Perpetuate Spiritual Abuse 114 5. How We Feel 121 Laura Anderson on Power, Control, and the Savior Complex 145 6. Seeing and Believing 149 Alison Cook and J.S. Park on Healing 178 7. Mending and Meaning 183 Roberto Che Espinoza on Communal Healing and Belonging 216 8. Unsettling Ourselves 219 Mark Charles on the Legacy and Healing of Spiritual Trauma 235 Conclusion: Grief Is a Form of Hope 247 Acknowledgments 253 OceanofPDF.com INTRODUCTION A few years ago, I found myself walking through a hardware store looking for a gardening tool.

I had snaked my way through at least forty-two aisles, dragging my fingers along the metal baskets protruding on both sides of me just to hear the musical tones this created. It was taking forever. But that was the point. I was on an escape mission—otherwise known as an extended break—from writing the script for the Holy/Hurt podcast, which was seven months overdue.

On this Friday morning, I had set aside time to finally dig into the project in a way I hadn’t yet been able to commit myself to.

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