How We Love Expanded Edition – Milan And Kay Yerkovich

It was fine.’ Personally, if I had grown up in his house, I would have been bored stiff. When we were first married, I used to insist that we go over to his parents’ house for a visit. They lived five miles from us, but Henry never wanted much to do with them. It was awkward because they were so quiet, and I’d end up doing all the talking. His mom and dad would just sit there and wait for someone to start the conversation.

It was weird. No one could get a word in edgewise at my house growing up. When my family sat down to dinner, we were always talking over each other. Henry said his house was quiet, and no one hardly ever talked at dinner. Can you imagine? I’d be bored stiff.” I went back to Jollie’s comment about the car accident. If Henry is an avoider (my hunch), he probably didn’t have a long-lasting emotional reaction to their deaths. “Jollie, tell me more about the car accident when Henry’s parents died.”

“It was so sad. They were driving home from the grocery store in the middle of the day, and a drunk driver hit them head-on. Can you believe it? The guy was wasted, and it wasn’t even noon. Henry got the call at work, and I just fell apart when he called me. I can’t imagine losing my mom or my dad. I’ll be a basket case when that happens.

Henry had to calm me down, but he was amazingly stoic. He had to take care of all the details since he is the only child, and it was a lot of work, going through their belongings, selling the house, and all. At first I think he was too busy to really let it sink in. I kept waiting for him to fall apart, but he never did.

Whenever I asked him about it, he always said, ‘I’m fine. I don’t really think about it much.’ Is that normal?” “Well, Jollie, if Henry didn’t have much of an emotional connection with his parents and he never looked to them for help or support, maybe there isn’t much for him to miss. You only miss people when they are gone if they have met some important need in your life. From what you tell me, his parents could hardly have even a superficial conversation.

“How We Love has the capacity to change not only your marriage but every relationship that’s important in your life.” —JOSH MCDOWELL, Christian apologist, evangelist, and author of more than seventy-five books including More Than a Carpenter and Evidence That Demands a Verdict “The authors have translated the complexity of how we love into a highly readable and clearly written book. Couples will easily be able to identify their love styles and how to transform them into genuine love.

I recommend it to all couples.” —HARVILLE HENDRIX, PHD, therapist and educator with over twenty-five years of experience, cofounder and president of the Institute for Imago Relationship Therapy, and author of Getting the Love You Want “Milan and Kay bring us a fresh look at intimacy and how we learn to love. Their practical and personal approach will enrich anyone’s marriage.” —DAVID STOOP, PHD, psychologist and author of When Couples Pray Together “I found How We Love to be extremely enlightening: a discovery of how best to love my wife, how to nurture her through a better understanding of our love styles, and how to implement change.”

—PHIL WAUGH, executive director of Covenant Marriage Movement “I have had the joy and privilege of working with Milan and Kay on a professional level and have been amazed at the success of their therapeutic techniques. Understanding our love styles and taking down the walls created by our imprints are skills that can help every marriage. I am thrilled that more couples will learn how to strengthen their relationships through the tools described in this book.”

—DR. ELIZABETH JOHN, MD, psychiatrist “Milan and Kay have taken their own life experience, their research over the years, and their experience in the counseling office, and distilled it into a work that is rigorous, original, and understandable. If you want to strengthen and enrich your marriage, as well as grow personally, I strongly encourage you to read and digest this material.

The effect on all your relationships will be powerful.” —DR. JIM MASTELLER, executive director of the Center for Individual and Family Therapy “Through Milan and Kay’s candid stories you will learn your own love style, find how to connect more deeply with your spouse, and ultimately realize who you were meant to be at the core of your being.”

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